I saw this posted onto a blog.

How true, how truw... Just thought of sharing this...

"What Happened to All the Nice Guys?"
Date: 2007-11-19, 3:52AM PST

I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section, so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven't figured it out.

What happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: you did.

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were ****ing treated you.

At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"

Well, once again, you did.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.
Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.

So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:
1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.

If you were five years younger.

So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've ****ed yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the bull**** and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't ****ing want you, now.

Sincerely,
A Recovering Nice Guy

记得要忘记
S.H.E.

在就要转身前
忽然又想起你
相遇的那一天, 漾著微笑的你

那个微笑
还是很美丽
可惜那个人, 常常要让人哭泣

太耀眼的城市
不适合看星星
就如同你的心, 不适合谈安定

谢谢你让我伤过心
学会爱情并非执迷
人改变不了, 改变不了的事情

记得要忘记忘记
我提醒自己
你已经是, 人海中的一个背影

长长时光
我应该要有
新的回忆

人无法决定
会为谁动心
但至少可以, 决定放不放弃

我承认我
还是会爱著你
但我将永不再触碰这记忆

记得要忘记忘记
经过我的你
毕竟只是, 很偶然的那种相遇

不会不容易
我有一辈子
足够用来忘记

人无法决定
会为谁动心
但至少可以, 决定放不放弃

我承认我
还是会爱著你
但我将永, 不再触碰这记忆

记得要忘记, 忘记
我提醒自己
你已经是, 人海中的一个背影

长长时光
我应该要有
新的回忆

记得要忘记忘记
经过我的你
毕竟只是, 很偶然的那种相遇

不会不容易
我有一辈子
足够用来忘记

我还有, 一辈子
可以用, 来努力
我一定, 会忘记你

Met up with Dawn recently (I'll write about it in another entry) and while I was browsing through some music stores at Novena Square while waiting for her to knock off, I heard this song.

I always liked this song while after catching this movie with SMZRD a while back...

"Don't Write Me Off"
Hugh Grant

It's never been easy for me
To find words to go along with a melody
But this time there's actually something on my mind
So please forgive these few brief awkward lines

Since I met you, my whole life has changed
It's not just my furniture, you've re-arranged
I was living in the past, but somehow you've brought me back
And I haven't felt like this, since before Frankie said "relax"

And now I know, based on my track record
I might not seem like the safest bet
All I'm asking you
Is don't write me off, just yet

For years I've been telling myself, the same old story
That I'm happy to live off my so called, former glories
But you've given me a reason, to take another chance
Now I need you, despite the fact that you've killed all my plants

And now I know, I've already blown more chances
Than anyone should ever get
All I'm asking you
Is don't write me off, just yet

Don't write me off, just yet